Essence: love, tender-heartedness and generosity

Came to believe: in order to receive you must give, in order to be loved you must be needed

Strategy: of giving in order to make people dependent on them as a way of getting their own needs met

Focus of attention: other people’s needs

Strengths: being generous, supportive, sensitive to the feelings of others, appreciative, expressive, romantic and exuberant

Challenges: being intrusive, manipulative, over-extended, controlling and overly helpful

Avoids: feeling useless and disappointing others

Defense: using repression to deny their own needs and to maintain an image of being helpful

Path back to balance: taking care of own needs first